Years ago, a man who was sexually victimized by his uncle when he was a little kid "did it" to his own 4 year old daughter. When he was caught, he did not defend himself, and he asked to be sent to Jersey's state prison for sex offenders, Avenel.
Years later, he was paroled from Avenel. He has done well on parole.
Recently, he found out that his daughter will be turning 18 soon, and wants to look him up, and talk. He asked me what he should do and say.
I suggested that he convene a large meeting of family members and close friends who are adults and who know about his crime. I suggested that he sit everyone down at such a meeting, including his daughter, go up to a podium so that he is the center of attention, and apologize and tell her that it is her right to hate him until he dies, and tell her that he will support her efforts to hate him if that is what she wants.
He said that he would do this.